Feelings grid

Not all feelings are emotions.

Emotion wheels are brilliant, but they won't help you if you're actually over-stimulated, dehydrated, or experiencing a nervous system threat response when you don't feel safe.

I designed my feelings grid to help you more easily identify a broad range of emotions, physical feelings and nervous system states.

Use it to help identify what's really going on for you.

Download it here for free.

"Having access to the right words can open up entire universes"

- Brené Brown, Atlas of the Heart

Don't just take it from me...

Used the tool this weekend and it got me from AAAAARGH to able to talk about what I was feeling and why!

Anna Knight

I LOVED the feelings grid! That is the one thing that I come back to time and time again, especially when I need help in identifying my emotions.

Sharron

I just looked at the chart and love how it is kind if a combination of Autism level up energy meter but with a lot more clues to help identify what is actually going on!

Nicola Street

Loved it. And my therapist might appreciate you too. I love how the grid is presented. It's almost like the feelings wheel and a bit like a flow chart (only a bit). 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

If you've ever struggled to know what you're feeling because your body gives you a confusing jumble of information that you don't know how to process, then you NEED this. I don't say this lightly - she's literally gamechanging with this work

Anna Knight

The feelings grid is fantastic

About Me

Hi! I'm Ellen from Feelings Unjumbled

When anyone asked 10-years-ago me how she really felt, she panicked. She genuinely had no idea. Whenever she did start to feel something, her brain would immediately explain in great detail why she definitely, absolutely, couldn’t be feeling that.

Eventually I realised I couldn't sustain living so cut off from my feelings. I became an emotions detective and tried out every feelings tool I came across. 70+ books and 15+ modalities later I realised "I'm getting good at this", and certified as a coach to help others on the same journey.

The final piece of the puzzle was being diagnosed autistic in my 40s. That's when I realised that not all feelings are emotions. Nervous system signals like overstimulation need a different approach, but it can be extremely hard to tell the difference if you're not used to tuning in. That's where the feelings grid can help.